This is the third installment in a five-part blog series on how homosexuality can legitimately exist within the confines of Christianity. I believe that as Christians, we are not only called to accept the LGBTQ individuals who cross our paths, but also, in the true form of Jesus, to embrace them. I believe we are to seek and welcome them, both into our hearts and homes with no expectations… no going on record as to their ‘questionable spiritual standing’… no coming at them with judgments disguised as concern… but instead, only with our pure unadulterated love. And through this series, my hope is that by providing a scriptural basis for this kind of love and acceptance, we can all finally feel free to love all people just as Jesus commanded of us.
But before I can get us there, I need to provide some backstory on God’s chosen people, the Israelites, during their exodus out of Egypt.
The children of Israel were held in captivity as slaves for hundreds of years until God sent a man named Moses to rescue them from the oppressive rule of the Pharaoh and lead them to the fertile farmland He promised their forefathers. Seems easy enough, but it wasn’t. Why? Because just as it oftentimes does today, free will and the accompanying sin nature of the people interfered with the perfect plan of God.
The outcome for the Israelites was forty years of wandering through rough wilderness. Forty years that, had their hearts been full of faith and thanksgiving, could have taken just eleven days.
You may be asking yourself, what could have possibly gone wrong that could turn an eleven-day journey into one that took forty years? You might be trying to envision what the same predicament could look like in your own life. You see yourself stepping onto a cruise ship holding a suitcase packed for a seven-day tropical adventure, only to discover once inside that there was no exiting the boat until that baby had made it fully around the world four times. Just crazy, right?!?
For those of you who might be thinking, hogwash, this sort of thing just doesn’t happen… I’m here to tell you, you’re wrong. It can happen to any of us if we’re not aware of the subtle price of entry: putting our faith in the things that can be seen instead of the limitless potential of God.
You see, God had been moving mightily in the lives of the Israelites long before they had even left the land of Egypt. Because the Pharaoh was unwilling to free the people, God was able to perform a great number of signs and wonders that were not only intended to persuade the Pharaoh to contend with Moses’s repeated requests to release the people, but also to display His awesome presence and undeniable power to those, who had up to that point, had no personal experiences with Him.
The children of Israel had heard all the stories that had been passed down through the generations that spoke of a very engaged God, a God who had made a covenant with their forefather, Abraham. They knew that God had intimately known them by name… advised, protected and directed their steps. But over the years, Israel had gotten so consumed by doing life their way, that they stopped calling out to God. They stopped asking for direction and listening for His voice to guide them. And so eventually He stopped speaking to them. For this reason they found themselves in a foreign country, living as slaves, badly beaten and abused.
But when things finally got so unbearable in Egypt that they couldn’t take it anymore, they remembered their God. They called out to Him and God heard and set into action a plan of rescue that included a series of mind-blowing miracles. These supernatural phenomena were intended to serve as abundant proof that He was who they had heard He was… and that He was, despite their own failings, trustworthy and true to deliver on the promise He had given them through their forefather, Abraham hundreds of years prior: the promise of a homeland that possessed goodness beyond their wildest dreams.
But in order to make good on that promise, God had to get His people out of the clutches of a Pharaoh. So, He brought a series of ten plagues on the Egyptian people that made it clear to the Pharaoh that He meant business. But prior to each plague, God told the Pharaoh of what disaster was to come if he didn’t contend. He warned through His servant Moses; if you don’t let my people go, (for example) I will bombard your land with frogs. And when the Pharaoh said oh, but heck no… Behold! Millions of frogs invaded his land. This scenario played out ten separate times. And each time, Moses predicted different outcomes that came to fruition… all evidence (to Israel) of the One very real and powerful God who was fighting for them.
After the plagues, Israel left Egypt whole-heartedly trusting the God who had just saved their badly beaten behinds… thanking Him all the way to the Promised Land. And, they lived happily ever after, right? I mean, after ten rounds of realized predictions, they should have had all the faith they needed to trust God for the journey ahead, wouldn’t you think?
The simple answer is… no. So… God didn’t stop there. He wanted to give them even more proof to fuel their faith: He made His presence visible as they walked; as a cloud by day and a pillar of fire in the sky by night… He provided for them nutritious sustenance everyday that fell, like edible snow, from the sky and their clothes and sandals never wore out. But as if all that just wasn’t enough, as they were leaving Egypt He gave them an experience with Himself so monumental that it should have instantly rendered their trust in Him unshakable: experiencing the impossible made possible.
After the Pharaoh finally allowed Moses to lead the 6,000 men plus women and children out of his land, he had a change of heart and sent an army of men, horses and chariots after them. And when the children of Israel saw them they panicked. In a moment of fear they forgot about all the things they had seen the Lord do to get them out of bondage with the plagues. And they reverted to rebellion saying to Moses, what have you done??? Why have you lead us out of Egypt to die at the hands of Pharaoh’s men??? – Exodus 14:10-14
As if having a thundering army of avengers behind them, Israel had yet another impossible circumstance before them... a Red Sea, which they believed if they kept advancing into, would surely kill them if the army of men didn’t first.
But that was not what happened at all. In one of the most spectacular moments in all of human history, the unthinkable happened. When Moses stretched out his staff over the sea at the Lord’s command, the water parted just long enough to allow His people to pass through, before crashing back down and drowning every one of their enemies.
Yes!!! We have an amazing and awesome God, you’re probably thinking. But how does any of this relate to our series on homosexuality? And how does this story answer the hard questions we Christians often don’t know how to answer related to the LGBTQ community? Like… is it our duty to communicate God’s dissatisfaction of the lifestyle choices of every homosexual we encounter? And if we don’t, are we doing them a grave disservice by not encouraging them to change their ways to save their precious souls?
The short answer, I believe, is no (unless they come to you asking for Godly wisdom and advice). And the reason, my friends, is because just like the children of Israel, who had never had a personal experience with God, the majority of the people who comprise the LGBTQ community haven’t had one (yet) either. And how can we expect anyone to change course without first having that? Especially when scripture seems to support that God doesn’t?
Think about this… God very generously gave His people, not one... not two… but 10 show-stopping and unforgettable experiences with Himself, with every plague, before He ever asked them to follow Him anywhere. Each plague gave them an opportunity to see Him in action… to start to know and trust Him. But more graciously, it allowed them time… much needed time to accept the reality that He was likely leading them into an unknown future. Because after over 400 years in Egypt, He would soon be asking them to leave behind everything they had ever known to follow Him.
Yes, they were living as slaves. But I hope you can agree, my friends, that change is always hard. For this very reason many of us are guilty of staying in jobs we hate for years, decades and even lifetimes, because staying unhappy is always easier than the risk and effort required to make a major change in life.
While we know that God’s way is always a better way to live, I think we need to allow those still in Egypt time. We need to let the Lord reveal the necessity of their change of direction… or their departing from Egypt. And we need to trust God’s timing as this plays out in the lives of all of God’s people, including the LGBTs and Qs.
I can further support this truth with scripture from the book of Hebrews (and Psalms) that speak of the exodus and God’s dissatisfaction with the Israelite’s failings of faith.
“Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says,
“1. Today, if you hear his voice,
do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion,
2. on the day of testing in the wilderness,
where your fathers put me to the test
and saw my works for forty years.
Therefore I was provoked with that generation,
and said, ‘They always go astray in their heart;
they have not known my ways.’
As I swore in my wrath,
‘They shall not enter my rest.’”
3. Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God. 4. But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. For we have come to share in Christ, if indeed we hold our original confidence firm to the end.” – Hebrews 3:7-15 ESV
There are four aspects of this scripture that supports the claims of this message.
1. God speaks. If you speak to Him and listen to hear His response, a heavenly word will come! Our God is not just some invisible, intangible, and inaudible essence in the distance. He is with us and can be felt, sensed and heard from… all the things His children require in order to develop a very real relationship with Him. And just as He illuminates the sin in our lives, and moves us to repent, He can be trusted to do the same in the lives of all others… including those in the LBGTQ community.
2. God is patient. He provided ample time and experiences with Himself for the Israelites to change their ways and fully follow Him in faith. The Israelite's time in the wilderness was considered a rebellion because even after 40 years, their hearts were still hardened to Him. For this reason (indicated by the word “therefore”) He was very disappointed and angered by them… and rightfully so. That said, let’s trust God’s timing related to the LGBTQ community.
3. God wants us to be careful when engaging with others. Because the sin of others can create a stumbling block for us… causing us to blindly sin ourselves (by judging the sin of others). On the flip side, we must also be careful not to cause others to stumble with our sin (in the case of with homosexuals, with our judgments), further perpetuating a snowball effect that can drive them further away from finding Jesus (than they were before). Just as Jesus spoke to His disciples, to those who have been given more (wisdom), more is expected. (Luke 12:48) So, as Christians, when we fall into this sin trap, I believe it is even more of an infraction against God than when those who aren’t as far along in their journeys with Him do. That said; let’s stop inadvertently creating a barrier between God and the LGBTQ community by falling victim to sin ourselves.
4. God’s call for us is to encourage everyone, always, because every day is called today!!! My friends, we must remember that the enemy of our souls is a liar! And He is always going to try to get our focus on the sin of others because by doing so that slippery serpent accomplishes two things. First, he causes us to sin against our God by judging others unrighteously (and by not loving as Jesus commanded). And second, when he directs our focus onto the sin of others, we are not able to focus on overcoming our own. Jesus also spoke of this truth when He warned His disciples they should concern themselves with removing the log from of their own eye, before worrying about a splinter in the eye of another. (Matthew 7:3-4)
Dear friends, I know this life is not easy and can be confusing at times. But I want to encourage and commend you today. If you have made it all the way through this blog post it shows me that while you (like me) are nowhere near perfect, you realize that and you are trying. Trying to honor God more fully. Trying to accept those who are not like you more fully. And trying to love everyone… as Jesus commanded us to… fully and sacrificially.
I am here to tell you He is at work in us and through us, brothers and sisters. Sometimes it’s not a fast as we’d like, but let me assure you that you are in the process of being transformed by the hand of God. And whether you’re a person of different nationality, skin color, sexual orientation, gender, transitioning or questioning… scripture says God’s invitation is open to everyone, His plans cannot be thwarted, and He will finish the good work He’s begun in everyone who places their faith, not in this world, but in name of His son… Jesus.
“Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them. And I will love them and reveal myself to each of them.” – John 14:21 NLT
“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” – Philippians 1:6 ESV
“I know that You can do everything, And that no purpose of Yours can be withheld from You.” – Job 42:2 NKJV
Thank you for joining me for today’s blog and I welcome you to meet me back here next week where I will explain the law (and God’s purpose for it), how Jesus fulfilled it… as well as how justification, salvation and obedience are all at work in the lives of all Christians today.
I remember when I first attempted to read the entire Bible, starting in the Old Testament. It took me several failed attempts just to make it past the “begots”. But eventually I did and I was feeling pretty darned good about myself until I realized there were other major hurtles within the first few books that I simply did not know how to cross.
I went in looking for warm and fuzzies. I went in looking for love and miracles. But truly, in my absolute ignorance of the Word at that time, I was totally caught off guard by the hard stuff. You know what I’m talking about… the wrath. The judgment. The suffering and sacrifice. It not only confused this sheltered farm girl who was literally unable to watch (the tv show) ER without getting stressed, but it also physically turned my stomach.
Y’all, I’m here to tell you… I closed that glorious book so fast it would have made your head spin and I didn’t come back around to it for decades. Why? It was because I, like so many others out there I’m sure, didn’t understand the bigger picture. Nor did I understand the reality of how destructive sin really is… including my own.
Truth be told, as tragically comical as it is to me now, I didn’t even see myself as a sinner at all at that time in my life, although, I was super-guilty of the vast majority of them. So surely, the concepts of a “sin offering” and “slain lamb” were certain to blow my sweet little oblivious mind.
All that to say, I think every Christian remembers the moment when the truth of our own stinking, destructive and even yes, abominable, sin sinks in… and we finally accept our guilt, falling at the feet of God, aware and deeply sorry. That kind of realization doesn’t come easy or overnight. But it is governed by God, the only One who knows when we are mature enough to fully handle it.
That said, when we as Christians try to force repentance and righteousness on the guilty, whether they be gays or, more commonly, the prideful or ungrateful… it simply doesn’t work. Because only God’s timing is perfect, as is His patience and conviction.
“But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9
What Does the Bible Say About Sin?
In the beginning, the Bible tells us man sinned against God. And the Bible clearly defines homosexuality as a sin. But what is it, really? And what does it mean for us today?
In Greek, the word sin could better be translated as ‘to miss the mark’ of God’s perfection, or to 'fall short'. But friends, the Bible not only uses this word as an action verb (something that we do). It also uses it as an adjective that describes the fallen nature of mankind’s spirit (inherently sinful), and also as a noun that defines who we became in the garden the moment Adam and Eve defiantly rebelled against God so that they might be more like Him, knowing both good and evil (of flesh).
The Bible says that man and womankind were created in His image, and God put everything within the garden under their rule except for one thing… the fruit that grew from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.
Lets think about this truth for a minute. Why would a God who had just essentially exalted man as king, by creating a perfect palace for him to live in and rule over forever, have placed within that garden anything forbidden? It’s because the presence of that tree was the one thing that separated God from man. It was the one thing that established His ultimate authority. By honoring God’s command not to eat from the tree, what Adam and Eve were saying was that we believe You are our God and we accept that we are under Your loving authority.
The forbidden fruit not only established Adam and Eve’s relationship with God and placed them under His authority, but it also protected them. You see, evil already existed as is evidenced by the words “knowledge of” and the presence of a serpent who deceitfully presented Eve with the truth that she actually had a choice (to obey God or not).
In choosing obedience Adam and Eve would have rested securely under God’s umbrella of protection forever. However, in choosing rebellion against God, essentially establishing themselves as a fellow “God of their own lives”, they forced themselves out in the rain, detached from Him and unprotected. With one bite they fell from the grace of God and found themselves in the middle of a spiritual war that was raging all around them that they were completely unaware of while they enjoyed the peace and joy that is life with God (in the Garden). But once they opted-in to this battle, without an ounce of power to fight evil forces on their own, they became naked, exposed and vulnerable to an enemy that was (and still is) hell-bent on killing, stealing, and destroying them (and us today).
What Does the Bible Say About the Cost of Sin?
I think it helps when considering the character of God to make a list of words that describe Him. And in doing this simple exercise, it quickly becomes very clear exactly who He isn’t...
Our Heavenly Father is: Therefore... He Absolutely Opposes:
Perfection, Purity & Truth Destruction, Corruption & Lies
Abundant, Never-ending Life Physical Death, Spiritual Death
Light & Love Darkness & Hate
A Creator, Purposeful Multiplier of Life Listlessness, Nonproductive Activity
Holy, Righteous, Fully Good Unholy, Unrighteous, Sinful
Virtuousness, Justice Immortality, Injustice
Friends, I could go on and on here. But the one thing I hope you take away from this short list is the absolute qualities of God. There is no gray in, with or through Him. He is the epitome of a type of integrity that we simply could never comprehend on this side of eternity. He is fully worthy in His holiness. And the moment Adam and Eve let go of the tail of His coat, humanity became so unworthy that we could not only no longer walk side-by-side with God, but would die at the mere sight of His radiant presence. (Note: If this is hard for you to understand, think for a moment about darkness. In the presence of light, darkness completely vanishes. Darkness simply cannot be or exist when subjected to the presence of light. And in the same way, the very presence of God destroys all that is evil. And yes, tragically, this included us.)
So I hope you can see now how the cost of our sin was death. And not only did we subject ourselves to dying a physical death, but also an eternal death (since God’s original plan was for us to live forever with Him). But even then there was still hope for us because despite our rebellion against Him, God still loved us so much so that He made a way…
In His great mercy He poured out an antidote… the blood of another in place of ours. The Bible refers to this as concept as atonement, or the reparation or expiation for sin.
We see this clearly displayed for the first time in the garden when God brought forth skins to cover Adam and Eve’s nakedness. Animals were slain, blood was spilled, and lives were taken for the sake of the covering of their sin. And then they were cast out of the garden into a future of certain toil and suffering. But the Bible tells us that before the foundation of the earth was laid, our foreknowing God already had a plan set into place for our total redemption... the atoning sacrifice of His perfect Son, Jesus.
What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?
“If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.” – Leviticus 20:13 ESV
Okay. So God’s word reveals that homosexuality is not just a sin, but also an abomination. The Hebrew form of this word relates to something that is disgusting or despicable and is associated with the practice of idolatry. Idolatry is the worship of false gods.
I think it is worth mentioning here that the context of Leviticus 20 largely relates to the sexual practices associated with idolatry, which included human sacrifice (at worst) as well as sexual immortality (in general). The broader definition of sexual immortality could be interpreted to include sexual acts that even heterosexuals can be guilty of within their own marriages, as well as within the confines of non-biblical divorce and remarry.
The Bible tells us that adultery falls under this category of sin and Jesus, Himself, tells us that adultery can be accomplished just as easily with the mind as with the body.
“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” – Matthew 5:28
Now, relating specifically to abomination, I think it’s very necessary to see what other sins are described this way within the scriptures in order to understand the full meaning, context, and implication.
Proverbs 6 tells us that there are six things that the Lord hates… and seven, which are an abomination to Him:
“There are six things that the Lord hates,
seven that are an abomination to him:
haughty eyes, a lying tongue,
and hands that shed innocent blood,
a heart that devises wicked plans,
feet that make haste to run to evil,
a false witness who breathes out lies,
and one who sows discord among brothers.” – Proverb 6:16-19 ESV
Let’s break this list down to get a better idea of what it’s really saying here:
1. Haughty eyes = the one who is arrogant and prideful.
2. Lying tongue = the one who tells lies.
3. Hands that shed innocent blood = the one who takes the life of another.
4. Heart that devises wicked plans = the one who plots against the will/plan of God.
5. Feet that make haste and run to evil = to one who walks/advances in the direction of unrighteousness.
6. False witness = the one who tells lies about another (especially about God).
7. Sows discord among brothers = the one who creates conflict among others.
The first thing I’d like to point out here is that as Christians, we are most certainly guilty of one or more things on this list and often frequently. The more spiritually mature of us will certainly commit fewer indiscretions (in range and frequency) over time. But make no mistake; most of us have in the past and will in the future commit an abomination, despite our knowledge and deepest desire (of the heart) not to do so.
One of my favorite passages from the writings of Paul shows how conflicted a Christian’s heart is while on this side of eternity. He knows all too well the desires of the Holy Spirit for all of us; the call to righteousness. But in his human weakness, he writes that even he, a marvel of a man and apostle of God, messes up more often than he’d like. He writes:
“For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am of flesh, sold into bondage to sin. For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate. But if I do the very thing I do not want to do, I agree with the Law, confessing that the Law is good. So now, no longer am I the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want. But if I am doing the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me.” – Romans 7:14-20 NASB
I think this passage of scripture is a beautiful gift the Holy Spirit gives to us because it addresses the big, fat elephant in our hearts… the sin nature we became hard-wired with the moment we were born into a fallen world. And brothers and sisters, whether you’ve gotten your big, hairy monster well trained over the years, so that it sleeps almost all the time, or yours is undisciplined, unruly and always stirring, leaving huge piles of crap everywhere it goes… we must all remember… we all have one.
So does this mean we should just give in to our sinful natures then? As Paul would also say… by no means! We must fight the good fight. We must resist, calling on the Holy Spirit to help us conquer the influence of that elephant every moment of every day! But we also must know that without its supernatural empowering, we would all be hopeless slaves to sin! Praise be to Jesus for the life-changing gift of the Holy Spirit!
Now, back to the list…
The second thing I would like to point out is that for the most part, all these sins can be easily hidden, kept to ones self, and denied when we are accused. But for the homosexual who is in a relationship, it’s visible to all… all the time. For this reason, friends, I believe that homosexuality is the redheaded stepchild of modern day sin. When the truth is, abomination is not exclusive to “those people” rockin’ the rainbow garb… its universal. It’s humanity.
The last thing that caught my eye when perusing this list is that the sin of lying actually made the abomination list twice. Let that sink in for a moment and I’m certain that it will convict your heart, just as it convicted mine. Little-white. Or big-whopping. Consciously or unconsciously. It doesn’t matter. God clearly hates it and it’s the one infraction that many of us are most guilty of committing on a daily basis.
Now that we’ve covered the topic of abomination and how that relates to all of us, I would like to take a moment and try and explain in layman’s terms why I believe that God so strongly opposes homosexuality.
As a writer, I personally know the absolute necessity of a powerful first sentence. And in my humble opinion, there has never been a more powerful first sentence than that found on page-one of the Bible:
“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Genesis 1:1 NASB
This line, my friends, truly takes my breath away. It gives a glimpse of God’s own heart… and provides many unarguable truths about His character. He is an intentional and productive Creator. And He’s not just sitting around knitting afghans with His time and energy. He’s building solar systems. He’s giving life to a future existence beyond human comprehension. And we get all that… From. One. Line.
Wow!!! Are you with me, friends?
By no means am I trying to minimize the sin of homosexuality. But just from this one line, I think we can all see how the sheer reality of it opposes who God is at His core. Everything He touches grows and multiplies life, both in the physical and spiritual, present and eternal. And the reality is, homosexuality just doesn’t accomplish what God created man and woman to do together. People cannot spring up from their union. Souls cannot be brought into existence from their union. And they cannot, from God’s viewpoint, come together to make one flesh as God had purposed. (Note: If you are having a hard time understanding this last point, consider a pair of shoes. Even if they are the exact same size and design, two left shoes or two right shoes, will never come together to be a fully functioning pair.)
That said, homosexuality is sinful to God because the reality of its potential contribution to society and eternity falls short of His plan for mankind.
Why do I even bother mentioning this? It’s because like I said, I clearly remember how I used to be before I came to know my true sin nature (or more importantly… who I am now, in Christ). It’s because I remember how hard it hit my heart, when I realized that I was an unrighteous sinner standing before a righteous God. When, for so long I actually thought God was proud of me for being better than most since I was apparently secure in the fact that I had never robbed a bank. How’s that for an oxymoron?
So, hear me when I say, my friends, when we call our homosexual friends out on their apparent sin… we are getting them somewhere spiritually. Backwards. Therefore I’m here today for the purpose of giving you permission to back off… to hold your tongue and the hands of the LGBTQ community in unity… as a flawed people who are doing our best to advance in our walks with the Lord… little-by-little, day-by-day.
Because while all sin is grave and yields an abundance of disastrous consequences to us during our time on this planet… I believe God’s eternal love is FAR greater than our innumerable (death-deserving) shortcomings. He loves you, anyway. He loves me, regardless. And His grace is capable of saving everyone in the LGBTQ community and moving them toward repentance just like He has done and is doing with you and me. But first, He must get the opportunity to develop a real and life-changing relationship with them… a relationship that is facilitated when we are capable of loving like He does. Said simply, my friends, we must be a lighthouse of love illuminating the darkness of this world. Because without the light of the Son shining through us, how can we ever expect anyone to find his or her way to the Father?
So… to all of you out there who, like me, have been found guilty and yet have been redeemed… I believe the call to us is to rise up and love our LGBTQ friends and family fiercely, completely and without judgment… just as we love ourselves, just as Jesus commanded us to do during His time on earth. And I believe we can stay true to God’s word in the process by allowing Him to speak through us the greater truth of the patient love that is our savior, Jesus.
And for those of you following along with this series, please join me back here next week where we will further explore what the Bible says about the importance of time and God's perfect timing as it relates to the process of spiritual transformation.
A few months ago I heard a message from a dear pastor on how Christians should love the LGBTQ community. While I was in agreement with the vast majority of his encouraging message, there was a small part that (though it was filled with well-intended love and careful consideration of scripture) just did not sit well with my spirit.
The specific subject of discussion was how to show support to those who are in committed homosexual relationships. What does it say when believers show up in support of an LGBTQ couple? Are we Biblically “allowed” to attend a same-sex wedding or housewarming party? And let’s not forget the conundrum that’s had us all in unresolved debate since it dominated the headlines: Are we, as followers of Christ, supposed to bake the flipping cake, or not?
As it relates to the union of two homosexual individuals in marriage, this pastor’s opinion was that while we should always love and support the person, we must be careful to never show support of the sin. And in his opinion, this should exclude the Christian community from attending same-sex weddings.
Friends, before I go a step further, I have to say that I love and deeply respect this pastor. There is no question in my mind that he is the Lord’s anointed. His knowledge of the word and his personal relationship with God are so strong and deep that they could be evidenced by the spiritually blind. That said, prior to this, I had never questioned a single word that had ever come out of his mouth. But in this one instance there was something… something that prevented me from swallowing this message as absolute truth. I kept chewing on it. Over and over until… an inkling of a possible resolution came to my mind.
What if, I wondered… he is right?
But… what if, I thought… I’m right too?
What if the truth/standard by which a pastor must live is different than the everyday Christian neighbor, friend, and family member?
The Bible says that the church is the body of Christ, and Jesus is the head of that body. And just like our Savior, Jesus, is our spiritual shepherd as we walk through this life--- priests, ministers and pastors are our physical shepherds. As an overseer of the church, acting in the position of leadership… is it possible that since pastors are in a position of authority, their physical boundaries must be more rigid and defined?
“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.” – Ephesians 4:15-16 NIV
And, as the body--- the hands and feet of Christ (who are called to serve everyone, but especially the persecuted, lowly and lost), it is possible that the everyday Christian might be held to a different standard by God… one that is permissive of total inclusion, unconditional love and support?
I believe the answers are yes and yes.
Why? Because I see attendance at homosexual life-events as an opportunity to be present and make a favorable impression for the Kingdom of God. I also see our “yes” as a ticket into a mission field that is certain to harbor souls that desperately need to see evidence of God’s love (and presence among them). But also, because our “no, due to religious reasons”, often wounds hearts and creates an even larger stumbling block for those “rejected by the faith” as they journey into a life-affirming relationship with Christ.
But what does the Bible say about all this? And more importantly… what would the perfect man, Jesus, do?
“Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” – Matthew 19:13-14 ESV
These questions sent me to the scriptures searching for answers. And what I believe the Lord has shown me through His word has floored me… so much so that I feel called to share it since I believe there are so many of you out there who, like me, have hearts that are broken for this frequently abused, accused, and overlooked community, but who simply do not know what to do about it.
We love our Savior. And above all we want to honor Him. We want to uphold His laws and precepts. But we love people, too… all people (just as Jesus told us to do). And every time we browse the net or tune-in to the world on the topic it becomes crystal clear there are vastly opposing viewpoints. And because we don’t fit into the extremes, a lot of us good-hearted, truth-seeking, scripture-reading Christians do nothing at all (except shake our heads at the Christians literally throwing Bibles in the faces of their gay children and tolerance-promoting priests that go as far as to say homosexuality is not a sin).
“Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” – Lamentations 3:21-24 NIV
Friends, my prayer is for revival among the LGBTQ community. And my hope is that regardless of whether their bio-moms and earthling-dads still love them after they come out or start to transition, that not a single soul who associates with being LGBT or Q ever has to question whether their heavenly Father still loves them or not.
“If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?…
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword?…
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:31-32, 35, 38-39
Through my personal studies of scripture, I have concluded Jesus wouldn’t just want us to attend a same-sex wedding, but also to take an exceptional gift as a love offering. Furthermore, I have come to trust that if asked of Him, Jesus, Himself would have not just made the gay couple a cake--- He would have baked every last one of the fruits of the spirit into that sucker (free of charge) before sending it on its way with a dinner invite--- and an offer to join Him at the temple or for a sea-side Bible study.
I believe with a heart full of passion that there is a unifying message of lavish love that God needs delivered to this abandoned community. But church, I can’t deliver it alone. So won’t you please join me here next week were I will cover in greater detail what scripture says about our sins and the sins of others? It is my hope that the knowledge within will encourage and equip you… and give you every drop of assurance you need to be all-in with these cherished people who, just like you and me, belong to the Kingdom of God. As they, too, were purchased with the highest price, paid in full… the perfect blood of Jesus Christ.
“to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us. With all wisdom and understanding, he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.” – Ephesians 1:6-10 NIV